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| Saturday, 21 January 2012 11:02 |
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The say wine gets better with age, and when I look at my mother and grandmother I am convinced that like wine, women get better with age - we do not age we mature. I always use my birthday to reflect on my life and set resolutions for the next year. Looking back, all the experiences I have had somehow contribute to who I am right now. I realised that if I knew now what I knew then, things might have taken a different turn, but I appreciate the lessons. Twenty-five was not a very smooth year for me because I was forced to make difficult choices regarding my life, but it was a successful year all the same because of the choices I made. Adulthood brings its fair share of challenges, but making choices and being responsible for them was one that I had to learn the hard way. In the end I realised that having enough wisdom to make the right choices concerning life is the true definition of success. My quarter life crisis has finally ended and things have fallen into place. I have tasted success, true love, failure and heartbreaks and now I’m at a point in life where I understand myself and I know what I want - I want success. I was talking to a good friend of mine last week about the kind of challenges I face daily in my job. She made it clear to me that fear can come in the way of achievement. Therefore, we have to be principled and vigilant to ensure that nothing comes in the way of our dreams. A wise person once said and I quote, “Don’t spend major time with minor people. If there are people in your life that continually disappoint you, break promises, stomp on your dreams, are too judgmental, have different values and don’t have your back during difficult time, they are not your friends. If you’re an eagle, don’t hang around with chickens - chickens can’t fly!” There are people whose sole aim in life is to put stumbling blocks in your path. I try my best to avoid these people. You need to be in control of the kind of company you keep. The choice to make friends with X and not Y should be a conscious one at all times. Choose to be in the company of people that build you up not pull you down. Pressure from friends is another thing that comes in the way of achieving our dreams and boy, haven’t I been getting a lot of that lately! All my friends are either having babies or in serious relationships. So discussions always go something along the lines of, “Christine is yours next?” or “Is there anyone new?” I used to say I was still young but I can’t anymore. But as far as am concerned my biological clock is not ticking. I am not completely pushing aside the idea of getting married and having kids one day but I don’t want to give in to pressure only to end up making the wrong choice. Too many times women make bad choices due to pressure from friends to commit. The worst thing a woman can do is to accept any Tom, Dick or Harry just to have someone by her side. If you have the luxury of time, wait for the right man. The power to be happy lies in the choices that you make. I have a friend who is always sad and grumpy. She makes decisions to chase other people’s dreams instead of her own. By striving to be like her friends, she lives way above her means, thus she is always frustrated. Being comfortable in your own skin is the only way to enjoy life. Don’t be the girl who complains about her weight yet always has an extra piece of cake, who says she can’t afford something yet buys a blouse to compete with a colleague, who says she hates how her boyfriend treats her but stays with him because she doesn’t want to be single. Don’t complain and blame everyone for your life when all you have to do is consciously make the right choice. If your job frustrates you, get a new one, if you’re lonely, go out more. You can choose to be happy because there are many things that give joy; faith in God, work, friends and family. Take charge of your life, make decisions that make a positive impact on it. Add this page to your favorite Social Bookmarking websites           |
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