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| Friday, 27 August 2010 16:06 |
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By Christine Chacha An old adage known to all of us is that when in a relationship, money matters are sacrilege; hardly talked about and best left alone. This is because finances have been hailed as the number three cause of break ups; when it comes to money not even love can prevail. A couple is often happy until finances do them apart. It is no wonder there are so many secret banking accounts among married couples. Money can’t buy you love, but it can bring lot’s of problems and even tear lovers apart. This is reinforced by the Cornell University study that shed light on the whole infidelity issue. The study says the difference in income between couples increases the likelihood of infidelity. This was not lost even to our foremothers. They had to deal with their cheating husbands because they were financially dependent. If they complained or tried to run back to their parents, their return would not be approved by the elders. “Does he provide for the children? Does he feed you? Does he put a roof over your head? If the answer to these questions is affirmative, then the women would be forced back to their husbands. These women endured poverty, infidelity and cruelty from their men for years until the Beijing conference. They envisioned a different life for their daughters; a life where they would be independent and not rely on men financially. Women zealously pursued education, careers and financial security with a hope that things would be different, but were they wrong. It seems women cannot be saved from the cruel world because, according to the study, whether women are rich or poor, men are bound to cheat. The study further reveals that, men who earn less than their wives are five times more likely to cheat on them. This is in an “attempt to compensate for the feelings of inadequacy” due to the loss of the traditionally male "breadwinner" status. I bet, those of you who thought not to disclose your pay-slips to your men is financial infidelity can think twice; it would be damning to his ego and increase his likelihood to cheat. Things are no different if he still holds on to the breadwinning role, the study reiterated what we already know; men who are way richer than their women also have a higher likelihood of cheating. No rocket science here, just look around, the more loaded a guy is the more women surround him. Rich men have an appalling appetite for women, no matter how faithful and beautiful their wives are. They say the opposite attracts but from the observation, this rule hardly applies when it comes to love and money. So, women, if you want to avoid being cheated on, avoid being a gold-digger or being a male gold-digger's trophy prize. Perhaps when it comes to finances, birds of a feather should flock together. No wonder most people tend to date within their own income brackets: it's a lot less complicated, and as research turns out, it's a lot more monogamous. Although the research advises that the key to a faithful relationship is for the woman to earn 25 percent less than her man. I believe it’s an issue of choice because as we have seen, it does not matter whether you are financially capable or not, your man will still cheat. Would you rather be financially dependent on him, where he gets to treat you badly and still cheat on you or would you rather be financially independent, have your own say in life and still be cheated on? Yeah I thought so. The negative side of it is that, women who earn more than their men are also likely to cheat. Well it could be a setback but who says women don’t want to have fun? This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it Add this page to your favorite Social Bookmarking websites           |
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