I wonder how life would be without Hollywood drama. It’s a constant source of gossip, and all the outrageous behaviour. There is something new every week and the focus is always on someone new.

About a year ago it was the vague definition of cheating when Eva Longoria hit headlines when she filed for  divorce from husband Tony Parker after she caught him sexting.  What was very disturbing was the fact that Tony did not sleep with Eryn Barry, all he did was exchange naughty texts.

This made me wonder what constitutes cheating? Eva Longoria realised her husband was cheating when she found hundreds of sexy text indulgences.

However, Tony and Erin’s “emotional affair” never escalated to a physical liaison.

Though Eva was heartbroken and felt betrayed by both Tony and Eryn, Tony on the other side did what all men do when they are caught with the hand in the cookie jar; confessed but feign dumbness.

When Shaggy sang the song “It wasn’t me” I think he was setting a trend for all the men, confess it all or deny despite vivid evidence.

If you ask any man out there what cheating is, they will tell you having a sexual relationship with someone else.
Well, as much as sex counts as cheating, but what about emotional relationships? Or worse still a sexting relationship with someone else other than your wife?

Just the other day a friend caught her beau with a picture of a barely dressed woman, guess what the explanation was, my friend had the phone so he took pictures of his girlfriend! This sounded crazy!

I am sure you still recall the Tiger Woods Déjà vu which got even more interesting as more women surfaced with similar accusations. In admission Tony said he had sexted the woman in question. What defines cheating you may ask; Sexual relationships? Close friendships with other women or men?

 Naughty texts with someone else?  I don’t actually know what the definition is but I think men need to know something and consider this public notice; Once you are flirting, sexting or having emotional connection with a different woman other than your woman that is cheating and destroys trust that the other party has in you.

From what Tiger Woods, Kobe Bryant, and Ashley Cole did, there is evidence that sportsmen cannot be trusted, they are famous and women are all over them.

What most women don’t realise when they marry these guys with tonned muscles is that athletes just like artistes have horrible track records when it comes to fidelity.

Maybe Athletes and musicians need to come with a big forehead tattoo, “serial cheater!”
It still beats my understanding why both men and women stray yet they cannot cover their tracks well.
What most serial cheaters don’t know is that such exploits will always leave some kind of a trail whether via e-mail, texts, or voicemails.

Bigger question is why don’t they ever delete the messages they receive from the other person?
Not that I condone cheating but these people are not being very smart. I am not a cheating fan but if you cheat then do it right.

Christine Chacha is a Citizen correspondent. Reach her at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

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