ONE MAN'S VIEW: He’s handsome, generous, caring and oh....so rich

No matter how many attributes a man may have, money is always the deciding factor in many relationships. Not even one woman in her right senses wants to be tethered with a Tom, Dick or Harry who is past thirty and living with his parents. I have heard many so-called super women (the independent type) proclaim lies that love is what matters and not money. That is indeed a white lie. Getting strutted with a poor bloke is no woman’s cup of tea.

Women trying to prove to the world that they can go beyond materialism have ended up on the bosom of the men of no substance, only for their relationship to fall by the wayside. The silver lining in women’s inbuilt intuition is that women can easily identify a promising man even if he were as poor as a church mouse. From merely talking to a woman, she can handpick a man with prospects from a multitude.

Men on their part have inbuilt urge to be showy – flashy cars, houses and all the mumbo jumbo. You can bet that the reason some men work themselves to the bone is to impress a woman somewhere – a concubine, girlfriend, mother or wife. Women are wired by Mother Nature to expect from men even if they earn six figures per month while their men earn peanuts.

All relationship woes: It goes without saying that money is an elixir for all relationships. It oils its cogwheels. Sometimes, lack of money is not necessarily the reason why many relationships fall apart.

The way we spend it counts. While women are endowed with uncanny thriftiness most men spend liberally. A man sees no problem in spending even what he has not earned. I can assure you that men who do not listen to their women’s judgment on money matters can as well consider themselves bankrupt at some point in future unless one is yoked to a gold digger. While infidelity counts as a major relationship breaker, money comes second.

Mr do-it-all: A man whose name I wish to preserve had it all going well. His only problem is that he never let the reigns of his coins. He spent all the time in the office (he is a teetotaller). When it came to household shopping, he kept strict control on every coin. He monitored even match boxes purchased. Finally, his wife of many years eloped with another man. She couldn’t handle the stifle. Sometimes, it is important to give women some leeway in expenditure.