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Dear Uncle Jaykesh,
My name is Alice. I got a boyfriend a while back, and have realised that my grades at school have been going down. I do not want to fail and I am not sure whether my boyfriend is the problem. I feel lost. Please help.
Alice, Dar es Salaam
Dear Alice: Slacking in your studies is surely a bad sign. It is important that you concentrate on your studies because they determine your future.
Though a boyfriend might look important to you now, your studies should come first, and your focus should be in excelling. Besides the obvious gains of doing well in school, your parents are going to be proud of you.
Your boyfriend should be emphasizing you on your studies and not pushing for his personal needs. Its time you put your mind on your studies.
I assume you are still young, and you are not ready for marriage yet, so why waste time on a boyfriend who you might not even stay with in the long run. Once you get your distinction, and pursue a career you will have plenty of time for a boyfriend. Best of luck.
I think I am gay
Dear Uncle Jaykesh: I am so confused. There is this guy who has shown a lot of interest in me. But I do not love him because I love someone else, who is a girl like me. I wouldn’t like to be gay. Please help me.
Name with held, Dar es Salaam
Dear name withheld:
When we are growing up we are not sure of our sexuality. That’s why through out teenagehood we go through a period of self-identity.
To most, this is a time of experimenting with their sexuality. And therefore it’s hardly surprising that we might find ourselves attracted to members of the same sex.
Sometimes, these feelings can be purely be friendship based, while for others it might be a start of romantic inclination to the same sex.
In your case I would think you are still on the experimental stage, and therefore a lot of confusion might emanate for developing feelings towards a girl.
Try to clear your mind by taking up a sport or a hobby. And if you do find that you actually love this girl, talk over your feelings with her. Maybe she has the same feelings as you, or might find that you are merely platonic.
I wish you all the best.
How to spice up your love
Dear readers: Today I wish to give you some hints on how to add flavour to your relationship.
1. Write your own love poems then record them on a tape and give them to your sweetheart.
2. Look into the eyes of your special someone often. "The eyes are the window to the soul".
3. Send a love a letter with confetti hearts inside so they pour out everywhere when your sweetheart opens it.
Regards Jaykesh Rathod
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