Does the party stop for single women over 30?

It’s a really great time to be a woman. The stars are aligned or whatever because you get to laugh with your girlfriends and go to brunch and wear yoga pants everyday.

In the past you had to like, learn how to sew, coddle your husband, cook, “manage a household”, raise kids and do a whole lot of other tedious, boring things. Today, you can just pursue whatever seems interesting for as long as it seems interesting and then move on.

Basically: instead of a life spent focusing on your kids and husband, now women get what men have always had — the ability to be the center of your own life.

I’ve read a few people’s narratives lately about how this will stop for women when they hit 30, notably this one that argues women become unhappy because they get ugly so they lose all the power they got from being desirable for the last 10+ years.

Here’s a portrait of what he thinks women are like in their 20s: [the average 20-something woman] can meet a pack of fellow hungover friends at some coffee house, wearing the same makeup as the previous night, hair knotted in a ratty bun off-center atop of her head, un-showered and generally disheveled in sweat pants with “Love PINK” scrawled across the ass.

They will cackle and brag to one another how Brad or Greg “like was soooo talking to me last night… oh my gawd.” You see, someone let these morning grease faced jackals think they really are that special.

Bro… have you ever gone hungover to brunch and laughed with your friends about what you did the night before? It’s really fun. No one thinks you have to be a special snowflake to have fun and laugh with your friends.

Everyone should do that. The most not-special person in the world should do that. The bitching about guys part, well, in my opinion if you treat people like they are less than you it will affect your happiness because if you are overly judgmental of others you can’t help but be too judgmental about yourself.

I advise against it, but it doesn’t affect me if other people do that. It’s a non-issue.

Here’s the same guy talking about why the party stops when you get to be 30ish:

Is anything sadder than a female past her prime that still acts like she has the power and allure of a 23 year old? But as men get older, if we simply take relative good care of ourselves and carry on suitably, we actually become more attractive, or at the very least maintain previous levels. Women like older guys… period.

I am not even saying you have to be super fit or well off, just don’t be a fat ass, present yourself appropriately in the right scene and you can still do very well or even flourish with women far younger, and even more important, younger than the bitter old clan of entitled jackals that seem shocked find their value plummeting year by year. They have lost most of their power and now wish you would talk to them.

They look on from afar while knocking back chicken nachos, sucking down mojitos, whispering among themselves about how awful the younger women you socialize with are, simultaneously judging us on how we could even want to talk to them to begin with.

Sorry hun, not interested. It looks like it’s you, Chunky Monkey, E Harmony and The Notebook again tonight. This is a perception issue. You can’t stop acting confident because there are people out there who perceive it as being undeserved. Your expectations are your responsibility, not the responsibility of the person you place your expectations on.

Source: thoughtcatalog.com