Securing a supersonic state-of-the-art relationship

What you need to know:

  • The most important thing in the Olympic games is not to win but to take part, just as the most important thing in life is not the triumph but the struggle.

Success is defined differently by different people. For some, success means excellently accomplishing defined goals within timeframes. For others, it's having an active social life and learning to positively handle consequences when friends become foes.

Regardless of how one defines success, American author Robert Collier gave a superb clue. "Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day-in and day-out."

So, who were the most successful couples in history? Is it Cleopatra and Julius Caesar? Queen Isabella and King Ferdinand, or Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Philip?

Some think it's Martin Luther and Katie. Nonetheless, here are some clues on how spouses can unleash supersonic success in a relationship:

Seeking smart endeavours: After realising a lifelong dream, the founder of the modern Olympic games, Baron Pierre de Coubertin, first started the Olympic Creed in 1896.

This creed is as cherished today as it was over a thousand years ago. Baron stated, "The most important thing in the Olympic games isn't to win but to take part."

The modern Olympic creed currently says, "The most important thing in the Olympic games is not to win but to take part, just as the most important thing in life is not the triumph but the struggle. The essential thing isn't to have conquered but to have fought well."

Are you doing your best in marriage? Are you giving your wife or husband the best treatment and the best romantic love? How many family books have you read?

Are your kids getting the best parental care? It's not about being the best parent worldwide or winning the best spouse award this year; it's about giving your best effort.

Souring like a space shuttle: Some spouses can go with other spouses so high; other spouses find themselves reaching new heights and getting close to heaven. If God has blessed you with superb skills, pick other couples and soar with them. Let them make an incredible leap.

Shuffling on like a stealth jet: There will be times when people know very little about us. Therefore, like a stealth jet, we can zoom in unexpectedly and surprise everyone with our incredible potential and power.

I'm this type of person. In life, not everyone will vividly notice our God-given treasures. Don't worry; get ready to zoom in on time and build others.

Stick others together like a satellite smartphone: Strong spouses are scarce, but when God has enabled us to build steadily strong relationships, let's soar above the world and keep people connected the same way smartphones do.

I'm extremely happy as a counsellor to see separated or divorced couples come together through my efforts. Like smartphones, let's connect people, but healthily and smartly, not illicitly.

As I conclude, it takes courage to zoom out of our comfort zones to be supersonic. Let's get focused and challenge the limits. And please passionately help other couples after achieving remarkable excellence.

Amani Kyala is a counsellor, writer, and teacher, 0626 512 144.