Avoiding affairs by practising safe marriage

When the Titanic made a voyage debut less precaution was taken. Silly mistakes were made, can you imagine a key into the binoculars room was forgotten?

The wireless radio operators constantly ignored received iceberg warnings.

A marriage journey is like a marine voyage, however good is your vessel, all necessary precautions must be taken.

No wonder the Russians have a proverb that says, "If you go to war pray once; if you go on a sea journey pray twice; but pray three times when you're going to be married."

The hard truth is that no one is immune to affairs. Practising safe marriage requires heeding the following:

Immaturity: This plays a significant part in marital unfaithfulness; some married individuals go into adulthood still responding to life like adolescents.

They find themselves giving in to temptations. Adolescents don't want to be restrained by commitments.

Someone wants to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it just "if it feels good to do it."

Unmet needs: Men need to watch their eyes, being careful about their second look. It's the small things that bring bigger consequences.

Similarly, women seem to get trapped by a landmine of unmet needs. They're so desperate for a relationship and become vulnerable to the attention of nice men.

They forget barriers by being afraid of getting paranoid about sexual matters. But setting barriers isn't being paranoid, is about safety.

Marketed sexual innuendos: This is a nudity generation. In short, there are so many sexual innuendos that come with these adverts like "let's get deeper." It's a generation that is having so much instant passion for sex.

Two people meet, and they go back to someone's apartment and passion takes over, all in just a matter of minutes. We live in a culture that thinks flirting is cute.

But many people with whom we socialise could be more dangerous than we imagine.

Consistent conflicts: Conflicts are inevitable but when we allow them to go on and on without being resolved they become erosive.

If the conflict is not dealt with the more mature partner must choose not to shut down the relationship and attempt to punish the spouse.

Consistent conflicts make both lovers vulnerable. So you should resolve things and fix stuff quickly.

Lastly, start your own affair at home. Usually, two people who involve in an affair spend time planning where they're going to meet and when; start spending time with your spouse thinking about how you can date each other in an exciting way; for sure you will be much happier and more satisfied.