Putting up my prospective partner's people pie

Over the years, human beings have come to discover that one of the most interesting things here on earth is human beings themselves. And this is about the thermodynamics or the inner theater existing in them. But the hazy and happy days of courtship are able to blind lovers; forgetting that knowing well a person requires hard work, skill, creativity, and endurance.

In this objectivity, I want to expound on how prospective partners can use clues on people pie articulated by Steve Sheerly in his book Ice-breakers and Heart-warmers. Part of the way to discover how the thermodynamics of your prospective spouse's inner theater is by understanding his current roles and who takes most of his time, energy, and love:

Prospective partner's current roles

In this life, everyone has many roles to play, and you want to have the opportunity to know the implications and the weight of each role your prospective partner is currently playing. Is he or she a brother, sister, or friend?

He or she might be a boss, employee, employer, businessman, businesswoman, tenant, landlord, landlady, church member, church leader, student, homeowner, small group member, worker, daughter, son, carer, father, mother, in-law, club member, footballer (or other sport), taxpayer, politician, actor, singer, musician, stepchild, Sunday school teacher, writer or a counselor?

In the above list mention the roles that apply. Ask your prospective partner, which of these roles is the most fun and enjoyable. Which one is the most challenging? Which role is the most rewarding? And which one is the most frustrating?

Who takes most of his or her time? Since people in our lives are most resourceful and precious, you need to ask your prospective partner who gets most of his or her time. Is it parents, friends, church, club, or employer?

Who consumes most of his/her energy? There are things in our lives that consume most of our physical and emotional energy. Ask your future spouse who're the people who get a big share of his or her energy. In the above list of roles mention the name or person who sucks most of his or her energy?

Who receives most of his/her love? All human beings have been wired with the ability to love and be loved.

Therefore, ask your prospective partner who receives the biggest share of his or her love. Is it parents, religious leaders, friends, workmates, children, or brothers and sisters?

Who takes most of the money?

Currently, who gets most of your prospective spouse's money? Apparently, the one who gets most of someone's money isn't necessarily the one who takes most of the energy or time but it can be someone who receives most of their love.

Lastly, this pie helps prospective spouses to continuously get to know each other making accurate attributions for partner behaviour. Attributions give reasons and explain one's actions and behaviours.