When a mother is hard to please
Mr Owere
What you need to know:
I always feel below my peers and siblings because of that, even though other people acknowledge my achievements. It really hurts not feeling comfortable enough to tell my mother about my feelings.
I always feel like everything I do is not good enough for my mother. My siblings are either working or in college, and I am in high school. Though I get As and Bs, my mother never seems to be impressed with anything I do.
I always feel below my peers and siblings because of that, even though other people acknowledge my achievements. It really hurts not feeling comfortable enough to tell my mother about my feelings.
I used to be insecure because my mother always scorned me about my weight. I lost several kilos exercising but, she still doesn’t seem to acknowledge that. She drinks a lot and we argue about it.
Well, this definitely is a cracker. Fights between mother and daughter have never been easy to resolve because rarely can one know when they are crossing the line or not. But all the same, something has to be done to alleviate your situation.
You want her to acknowledge your efforts fine. Many things such as alcohol may shift her attention away from you. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you are not important. You need to know who you are without being told.
Your family cannot make you feel less insecure, only you can by appreciating yourself for what you have accomplished.
You lost weight and you get good grades.
That is something you did completely on your own. Something that you should really be very proud of, and should be a source of inspiration to accomplish other things! Why not sit and talk to her like you would to a friend? If that doesn’t work then the alcohol has possibly caused changes to her personality and it isn’t anything you can fix for now.
You are only able to control what you do, not what others do. So move forward and try to make peace with her any time that you feel it could succeed. And pray for her. Surprising that it makes things happen sometimes when nothing else seems to work.
But only over time in some instances, it can yield very slow or sometimes sudden improvements. Don’t give up on your relationship with her. And just love her the best ways you know how.
