Begging from your woman is a no-no zone

A man’s ego is very important to him. Destroying it at some irreparable level, therefore, becomes the target and obsession of most women.

The mangling of a man's ego is faster when a man has his hands outstretched all the time. Even the woman’s relatives will be kept posted and form a picture of an emasculated man!

Therefore, the stuff about male machismo (known as mfumo dume in Kiswahili) sometimes makes sense to me when some men decide to view their lives through the societal prism and gauge themselves against other men.

To be seen as politically and socially right persons, some men have stooped to some weak level and become sissy. Their women take the place of their mothers. I’m not hinting at men becoming misogynists (complete hatred and disregard for women).

Far from it! It should be embraced, as I have said before in this forum, that women are our sisters, mothers, wives, girlfriends, concubines, providers of some services, and colleagues. However, stooping too low to beg is anathema.

Begging is anathema 

Men and women are not endowed with money. She may earn more than you do, or maybe you are a spendthrift, blowing every coin that passes before your eyes.

Women too are better savers than men and are bound to have some money stashed somewhere while you, as a man, had money over the weekend and decided to paint the town red, trying to impress anything in a skirt or trousers and hoping against hope that you will stretch your arm begging for alms from your woman. You should have your head examined by a qualified psychiatrist.

Sustain your “bad” habits on your own  

You are yearning for a cold bottle of Serengeti lager, and your wallet reads zero shillings. You are also a smoker, something that your woman detests with all her heart.

If that is what you do, there will come a time when a push becomes a shove for her. She will downright decline to “save” you from your folly. What do you do?

Be a patron at a joint

If you know that your money is allergic to your wallet and bank account, make connections with a local pub where they can lend you any amount of drinks you may need.

The only real problem with this arrangement is that it hurts when you have to pay an unrealistic amount of money at the end of the month, leaving you wondering if you indeed spent such a colossal amount of money on some flimsy thing like beer or cigarettes.

This leaves a bad taste in your mouth, especially when you add it up and realise that it could have afforded a kilo of meat or fish. The best alternative to satiate small needs is to have a project that gives you a daily income. Not your woman!