I have this notion that there are women who would like to be the ”heads” dragging down their men.
Sometimes, an inherent inferiority complex in a family setup can be the worst impediment to the material growth of any family.
Take it this way: some men fail in their endeavours because their spouses simply want to hold them in a certain station of subservience.
Envy and jealousy are words that are often interchanged, but unlike jealousy, envy manifests itself in a personal way and has more to do with one’s accomplishments and qualities that one has and that the partner does not have.
Your partner being envious of you will probably look like one of the examples given, such as them not seeming genuine about their happiness for your work accomplishments or them seeming to disapprove of you having a rich life if they do not.
People stop being thankful for whatever you do for them and cease to acknowledge or outright disapprove of one's accomplishments, demoralising them.
According to experts, these emotions can cause resentment, trust ruptures, abusive control dynamics, and ultimately end a relationship.
Ideally, a man and his partner are supposed to work towards certain common goals. These could be some income-generating projects, educating the kids, or building a new home in the village.
I have this notion that there are women who would like to be the ”heads” dragging down their men, and unless men become steadfast, something will pass by them, and they will only have themselves to blame.
Take, for instance, a man who started a plan that he has been eyeing for many years, like, say, keeping several heads of grade cattle, replacing a car, or any project that he feels like doing.
After starting and perhaps needing a couple of million shillings to finish the project, the woman will gleefully watch, waiting for the man to fail.
She may have the requisite capital, but as the man struggles, the woman will be inventing outlets or the money. She will be talking about paying her niece’s college fees.
In reality, couples living together need to realise that neglecting their duty to themselves, neglecting projects that are meant to keep them afloat in times of illness or retirement, and pretending to be Santa Claus to far-flung relatives is the dumbest thing to do.
Signs that your partner is envious of your accomplishments include praise around a partner's success that feels disingenuous, feelings of upset when a partner has a successful moment, constant or frequent comparison of wages or job positions, and negative commentary about a partner's job or success at their job.
