Don’t be angry, ask politely

What you need to know:

  • Nevertheless, there are times when we may be denied what we want simply because we do not know how to ask. We may fail to explain how important what we are asking for is, and when we don’t get what we want, we react inappropriately, thinking we are not loved.

We all have needs and sometimes we depend on others to get these needs. There are times when we are denied our needs, which makes us feel disappointed.

We may for example need new clothes and toys, or need to move to a better school, and even to have the TV remote control so we may watch our favourite show.

At times, those who deny us these things may be doing so out of goodwill and even take the trouble to explain to us why they are doing so.

Nevertheless, there are times when we may be denied what we want simply because we do not know how to ask. We may fail to explain how important what we are asking for is, and when we don’t get what we want, we react inappropriately, thinking we are not loved.

This is not a proper way to respond when we are denied the things we want. We should be more understanding when our parents cannot give us what we want.

Whenever we see the possibility of getting what we want, we should always ask and convince our parents politely and appropriately. They love us, and they wouldn’t hurt our feelings by denying us what we want.

There was once an argument between the sun and the wind about who was stronger. While they were arguing, a traveller passed along the road wrapped in a cloak.

"Let us agree," said the Sun, "that he is the strongest who can strip that traveller of his cloak."

"Very well," growled the wind, and at once it sent a cold, howling blast against the traveller.

With the first gust of wind, the ends of the cloak whipped around the traveller's body. But he immediately wrapped it closely around him, and the harder the wind blew, the tighter he held it to him. The wind tore angrily at the cloak, but all his efforts were in vain.

Then the sun began to shine. At first, his beams were gentle and filled with pleasant warmth. The traveller unfastened his cloak and let it hang loosely from his shoulders. The sun's rays grew warmer and warmer, and at last, he pulled off his cloak, and the argument was over.

The lesson? It shouldn’t be hard to get what you want. Be gentle, and learn how to convince.